I am a thinker, solver, peace-making, love sharing, forgiving person. However, I am also a woman who can’t sleep because my brain will not stop trying to reach a higher level of thinking after dealing with a one and two year old all day. After reading T.D. Jakes The Lady, Her Lover, and Her Lord, I decided the best way to do that was to start a blog over the latest book I finished reading. As a stay at home mother, the chance to get out to a book club is limited so I decided to have my own. With or without participation from others.
It has been said that the part of the women’s brain that is bigger is the frontal lobe. The frontal lobe is responsible for decision-making, and regulating emotions(Edmonds). As a woman you have a choice to be a lady no matter past, or current circumstances. Because being a lady is a lost art learning the biblical definition is top priority. Also being a lover, and not just in the bedroom sense of the word but in a real and working hardship-filled relationship. T.D. Jakes asses the lover, by divulging the secrets of how and why men act the way they do. He also acknowledges and discusses the past of a lady and man that would require varying degrees of love, kindness, and affection(yes love and affection are two different things) needed in order to overcome his/her past. By reading and meditating, we get a sense of generic purpose as to our role in taking care of herself, her lover, and her relationship with her Lord.
And lastly, the most important aspect of a lady’s life, is the relationship a lady has with her Lord. I can do all things, through Christ who strengthens me. Self + God = Happiness/Success. God can’t mold your life to follow his will if he doesn’t have your willingness. Just as God relies on us to do his will, so must we rely on God to give us the tools to carry out his will. Also, we can’t defeat our past or achieve our future goals without the mighty power of the Lord. It defines all of these and respectively ties them together like cars on a train. T.D. Jakes uses plenty of real life experiences to attempt to describe the love of our Lord and the expected mindset we must have as sisters in Christ. He does a wonderful job, considering he is a man, in assessing where it is that women need to focus on. It isn’t our job to change the world to make everyone happy or to make all of our clothing fit into one nice neat suitcase. It is to be an imperfect person in an imperfect world, but worthy of love. I have read this book twice the first prior to being married and the second after having my second child. This book can be read once a year. No matter what stage in life a woman is in, it has an extremely powerful and inspiring message. The lady has something to gain and give to oneself, to her lover, and her God.
Edmonds, M. (2008, October 8). HowStuffWorks “Male and Female Brain Structure.” HowStuffWorks. Retrieved January 10, 2014, from http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/men-women-different-brains.htm